Checking if your girlfriend is cheating, part 2
Posted by admin on 11 May 2009 at 05:57 pm | Tagged as: Checking for truth
In the previous posting we discussed ways to check if your girlfriend is cheating on you. We looked at asking for the truth, hacking and key loggers. We will continue where we stopped last time and continue with the most classic method
3) Spying
This one is; like the other methods immoral, but it’s not illegal in most countries. The most classic one is hiring a private investigator and get pictures or other proofs of anything wrong happening. Another option, which is cheaper, is to ask a friend to follow them and take pictures or whatever he can find, you could of course do this yourself, but its often best using a friend she does not know about to uncover it as its less chances you get exposed for your actions. It’s nothing more humiliating than being caught as jealous with no reason. As I mentioned in the signs of a cheating girlfriend series; there might be a reason for changes in your partners behavioral.
4) Confront your partner with the signs you have seen
This is the most risky one, and it leaves out a large possibility she will lie when confronted, but the evidence you have found might be strong enough for her to admit everything. It’s really hard keeping such a secret; and if the signs you have collected are strong enough she might find there are no other alternatives than telling the truth. However; this method might also get your girlfriends angry with you and end up in the two of you separating. You should also remain calm and direct on facts while talking. Another method might be to pretend to know more than you really know and she might confess. So even if you are direct, you should only give some and some information. Pretending to know more than you actually know and she might misspeak or confess.
All of the methods above, whether illegal, immoral or wrong you should keep in mind that talking in the wrong way might end the relationship. If you really care and love your partner you should talk seek understanding and finding a solution for both of you. It is not impossible to forgive an action like this if you really are filled with love; but it’s essential that you both talk it, find the wrongs in the relationship causing it and working for a mutual relationship. I do recognize that sometimes you get really hurt and it affects the truth in the relationship, and there is no other option except to end the relationship. We will discuss both understanding and looking at thoughts to make before making this decision.