Expose Cheating Girlfriend

This might be the wrong place to start, but we will look into understanding why girlfriends cheat. But it might be wise to look at the situation first.

What is the reason of your suspicion; have you heard it from someone, or do you just a feeling of jealousy and insecurity. If you heard it from a friend you should try to look into the situation and what your friend is telling. Is there something you could do to get evidence and certain what they are saying is true? I am not saying your friend is lying, but some might have a hidden motive of separating you two. So listen carefully and try look if there is more to confirm what is told. To hear someone say she messing around might be a bit vague to confront them with. Please make sure your information is reliable. My point is that it might hurt you to wrongly accuse a person of being unfaithful.

You might of course have either have strong instincts that are right, or found information concluding with certainty that your girlfriend have been going behind your back.

As I said previous, if you only got a instinct for her cheating you should only ask some way which doesn’t hurt. If she answer with “of course not! How could you ask such a thing?” or maybe some ironic way of saying no you might have to get more certain by something you witnessed or know from previous.

If you are certain you have to clarify several questions, both emotionally and physically; she might get STD, and how can you handle be one of several?  You should also ask yourself: What advice would you give your best friends, what advice would you give to your brother? If you had told them to leave their partner; maybe that’s best for you too; if you told them to fight for their love you should fight to be together.

I think men are terrible at sharing feelings, at least I hate to show a really vulnerable side of myself, but you should defiantly talk with your girlfriend and explain how you feel. How she hurt you. What emotions that affected you. You should also clarify for yourself how you want your future relationship, and explain this to your girlfriend too. It is important both are involved in the process if you want to go on. And if you are unsure her reaction and feelings might help you to clarify if this really is the person you want to share your life with. You might learn she is filled with regret and pain over hurting, or you might learn she don’t care at all. So it’s worth having a talk before making your final decision.

It might be a need for a break to think, maybe settle on two weeks to really think over the issue, but don’t make the break to long, but both agreeing on a certain point, three days, a week, or maybe two weeks you talk it again. The break might be sleeping in different rooms, and socializing with friends, or exercising on the evening to get a break. A nice walk in the darkness might also help. Just don’t make the distance to big, and don’t be to close if you need time to think. Find compromises on how and when to make a decision.

It is also important to talk with her when able, and at least if you have made a decision. She deserves to know your decision, as you don’t want to lower yourself as a person filled with revenge.

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