Expose Cheating Girlfriend

This might be the wrong place to start, but we will look into understanding why girlfriends cheat. But it might be wise to look at the situation first.

What is the reason of your suspicion; have you heard it from someone, or do you just a feeling of jealousy and insecurity. If you heard it from a friend you should try to look into the situation and what your friend is telling. Is there something you could do to get evidence and certain what they are saying is true? I am not saying your friend is lying, but some might have a hidden motive of separating you two. So listen carefully and try look if there is more to confirm what is told. To hear someone say she messing around might be a bit vague to confront them with. Please make sure your information is reliable. My point is that it might hurt you to wrongly accuse a person of being unfaithful.

You might of course have either have strong instincts that are right, or found information concluding with certainty that your girlfriend have been going behind your back.

As I said previous, if you only got a instinct for her cheating you should only ask some way which doesn’t hurt. If she answer with “of course not! How could you ask such a thing?” or maybe some ironic way of saying no you might have to get more certain by something you witnessed or know from previous.

If you are certain you have to clarify several questions, both emotionally and physically; she might get STD, and how can you handle be one of several?  You should also ask yourself: What advice would you give your best friends, what advice would you give to your brother? If you had told them to leave their partner; maybe that’s best for you too; if you told them to fight for their love you should fight to be together.

I think men are terrible at sharing feelings, at least I hate to show a really vulnerable side of myself, but you should defiantly talk with your girlfriend and explain how you feel. How she hurt you. What emotions that affected you. You should also clarify for yourself how you want your future relationship, and explain this to your girlfriend too. It is important both are involved in the process if you want to go on. And if you are unsure her reaction and feelings might help you to clarify if this really is the person you want to share your life with. You might learn she is filled with regret and pain over hurting, or you might learn she don’t care at all. So it’s worth having a talk before making your final decision.

It might be a need for a break to think, maybe settle on two weeks to really think over the issue, but don’t make the break to long, but both agreeing on a certain point, three days, a week, or maybe two weeks you talk it again. The break might be sleeping in different rooms, and socializing with friends, or exercising on the evening to get a break. A nice walk in the darkness might also help. Just don’t make the distance to big, and don’t be to close if you need time to think. Find compromises on how and when to make a decision.

It is also important to talk with her when able, and at least if you have made a decision. She deserves to know your decision, as you don’t want to lower yourself as a person filled with revenge.

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In the previous posting we discussed ways to check if your girlfriend is cheating on you.  We looked at asking for the truth, hacking and key loggers.  We will continue where we stopped last time and continue with the most classic method

3) Spying
This one is; like the other methods immoral, but it’s not illegal in most countries. The most classic one is hiring a private investigator and get pictures or other proofs of anything wrong happening.  Another option, which is cheaper, is to ask a friend to follow them and take pictures or whatever he can find, you could of course do this yourself, but its often best using a friend she does not know about to uncover it as its less chances you get exposed for your actions. It’s nothing more humiliating than being caught as jealous with no reason.  As I mentioned in the signs of a cheating girlfriend series; there might be a reason for changes in your partners behavioral.

4) Confront your partner with the signs you have seen
This is the most risky one, and it leaves out a large possibility she will lie when confronted, but the evidence you have found might be strong enough for her to admit everything. It’s really hard keeping such a secret; and if the signs you have collected are strong enough she might find there are no other alternatives than telling the truth. However; this method might also get your girlfriends angry with you and end up in the two of you separating. You should also remain calm and direct on facts while talking. Another method might be to pretend to know more than you really know and she might confess. So even if you are direct, you should only give some and some information. Pretending to know more than you actually know and she might misspeak or confess.
All of the methods above, whether illegal, immoral or wrong you should keep in mind that talking in the wrong way might end the relationship. If you really care and love your partner you should talk seek understanding and finding a solution for both of you. It is not impossible to forgive an action like this if you really are filled with love; but it’s essential that you both talk it, find the wrongs in the relationship causing it and working for a mutual relationship. I do recognize that sometimes you get really hurt and it affects the truth in the relationship, and there is no other option except to end the relationship. We will discuss both understanding and looking at thoughts to make before making this decision.

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There are several ways to uncover if your girlfriend is cheating on you; the most direct one is of course to ask whether there is something going on not. This is of course a lot easier than it sounds like as she most likely is to deny anything from anything happening. To really get to the base of truth you should talk in a way of understanding her. And I will cover this topic in another article. It is however worth mentioning that females aren’t natural sluts needing everyone they see. Often there are more emotional reasons behind their actions which is lacking in your relationship. However; the topic of this article isn’t understanding, but tools to uncover the truth. Many of the methods I will discuss here is illegal and should not be used unless the laws of your country accept them. It’s also a question whether you are living together, if you are married etc as there are privacy laws.

1)    Hiring a black hat hacker
This is illegal in most countries and is punishable by fines and/or prison. There are however people on the internet that can hack your girlfriends email/msn/social websites.  If you do this you should be aware that hacking is most likely illegal in your country; however it should be worth saying you should not pay any hacker in advance. Many pretend to be hackers but are in reality scammers only wanting your money, and have no interest in your problems. A serious hacker would provide you with proves that they got the password before you pay them.  These proves are generally in terms of screenshots from their profiles or emails.

2)    Key loggers
There are also a lot of key loggers on the market today; and you should be advised it is illegal in most countries to install key loggers on someone else’s computer. To this legally you should have it installed on your own private computer and not someone else’s computer. Some of the key loggers you get are USB based and put all the information to the USB drive. There are also much software based, and they often store the files in directories and you can check anything she has written/received on the instant chat messenger, or any mails written on the computer. Some also let you access the files from internet and you don’t have to do anything enter the local computer. You should be aware that most antivirus software can detect key loggers, so they should be installed manually on the computer and making exceptions for the key logger in the antivirus settings. There are software allowing for remote installation; but they are easily stopped by antivirus; or giving the user a warning prior installation.
We will continue discussing some methods in part 2 of this series.

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